Do you like it when someone blames you for something you didn't do?
For that matter, you probably don't like it when people blame you for things you DID do either.
Blame creates more ill feelings. While it may be intended to build in accountability, does it seem to you that it works that way? Instead, problems get escalated. People point fingers. Guilt is transferred.
When justice is required, seek justice. But assigning blame -- randomly or otherwise -- seldom improves the situation.
Blame brings shame so play a better game.
It might take courage. It might take compassion. It might take the clarity of seeing the bigger, better picture and working to create the better relationship.
Find ways to get past the situation to a mutually shared goal. Play a better game.
-- Douglas Brent Smith