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No Need to Yell


Have you ever had a boss who yells at you? I have. I hated it. She was the one boss I've quit. I left the job because no matter what I did, she only saw the need for correction and yelled, insulted, and belittled me. She was a bully.

People leave people who yell at them.

We all get excited. We all might raise our voices occasionally. But, there are seldom any reasons worth the damage to yell at a direct report.

Leadership does not mean loud. Sometimes it's the quietest voice in the room.

-- doug smith



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