Standing In The Way

Have you ever had an opportunity that felt like it was standing in the way of something better?

People tell you to go for it. You get support and reinforcement. It seems like something you could do extremely well...and yet, some small voice tells you there's something bigger, something better you should be chasing. Anything else feels like a distraction, like something standing in the way.

Chase the dream.

Follow the vision.

Live authentically for what you truly want.

Do you doubt that this works? Try living without it (I know, if you're like me, you already have.) What's that like?

I recently chased a non-dream dream job thinking that it would solve lots of problems. Mainly, people said it would be a perfect fit for me, that I WAS the job. Maybe. But something deep inside me said, that's a distraction. That's a passion, but more of a mistress than a partner/wife. It's not the heart of the heart of me.

That must have showed somehow, because I didn't land the job. Qualified candidates don't always get the job. But I didn't cry. I felt a bit of anger and disappointment at not "winning" but I also felt a huge twinge of relief. It wan't meant to be because it wasn't meant as me.

I'm here to help as many people as possible at improving performance, solving problems, and achieving your goals. I know how to do that very well and have a blast doing it. But I do it my way, by customizing the moment to wrap around your issues and deliver what we both need right now.

That's not a big program. That's not a template for everyone. That's not a one-size-fits all solution. Do you wear your neighbor's shoes? Why would you walk your neighbor's path?

Maybe I'm nuts. Maybe I'm self-absorbed. But I think I'll continue to chase the dream, follow the vision, and live authentically for what I truly want. To make a massive difference helping you and others improving performance, solving problems, and achieving your goals.

How about you?

-- Douglas Brent Smith
Front Range Leadership, LLC

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