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Letting Go of Perfect

Wisdom, not perfection

My former acting coach, Brian McCulley once said that "done is better than perfect." I don't think he meant to minimize quality, because that is also important. But sometimes urgency is more important than perfection, considering that we'll never achieve perfect.

There are no perfect people. There are no perfect products. There are no perfect processes. We may travel John Wesley's road to perfection without ever getting there. That is completely fine.

I've learned to seek wisdom rather than perfection since discovering the endless amount of personal flaws has destroyed any illusion of perfect. Still, I travel that road, whether it's driving or as a passenger. It's a good road, even when it never ends.

I've also learned not to let it grieve me.  We are all here to improve. Let's keep improving.

When we look into the mirror, let's not expect perfection. Let's not let disappointment cloud our days. Expecting perfection is not a flattering look.

A better look is available: a look of striving without obsessing. Let's go for that. Let's keep improving.

-- doug smith
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  1. David SpiegelMarch 30, 2020 at 1:24 PM

    Perfection is overrated....trust me! The true goal........100% effort!

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  2. David SpiegelMarch 30, 2020 at 1:29 PM

    " A man's reach must extend beyond his grasp"- Robert Browning

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