Create A That Sounds Awesome List

Guest Post from David Spiegel

I often find myself writing about things that are perplexing me. When I am feeling uncomfortable about something, I find that writing about it helps me shed some light on the matter. Sometimes the results are immediate and at other times it is a process.

Today I am writing about something I find fascinating. I think inspiring is a better word.In fact I find myself awestruck by it. 24 years ago, while planning my son Max's Bris, a friend and mentor told me "David,all you can do is set the stage. You can not predict an outcome". The message was simple, have no expectations ,just do it the way you want it done.

Fascinating! Today that same person is fulfilling one of those bucket list items herself. After standing track side at Churchill Downs to watch California Chrome run for the roses, I next heard from her in Baltimore where she watched C.C. take the second leg of the Triple Crown. Today she is in Queens at the Belmont in position to watch history in the making. How exciting! Having experienced her joy and passion for over two decades I can only imagine how she feels today.

It is awesome.

The Bucket List was a nice movie. The idea of a bucket list,things I want to do before I die? Not so much. My friend and mentor doesn't have a before I die list. It's a while I am alive and a since I can list. A Why Not list. It's a That Sounds Awesome list. Turning "wouldn't it be nice" into "go for it" just seems so much more energetic. Nike has it 100% correct...Just Do It!

Have a glorious day!

David Spiegel

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David Spiegel is a successful business owner, coach, writer, and musician. We've been friends since Moses was a boy and fraternity brothers in Phi Mu Alpha Sinfonia. He writes a daily newsletter and has kindly agreed to let me share his thoughts here on occasion.

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