Dealing with Disillusionment

Have you ever been disillusioned?

Sometimes things do not turn out as we expected. Despite our best efforts and most noble intentions, sometimes the outcome simply does not match our expectations.

I've worked on projects that lasted longer than they should have and produced less than we planned. Disillusionment could have easily set in.

There have been people in my life who surprised me and disappointed me. Was that their fault or mine? Does it matter? Disillusionment could have taken over, but didn't.

Set-backs are no cause for surrender.

Centered leaders deal with disillusionment with quiet confidence and patience.

It's the long view. It's knowing your sense of mission and purpose. It's staying clear on the course ahead no matter how hard the wind blows.

As many a sports coach has yelled with all good intentions, "brush yourself off and get back in there." It may not be that simple, but sometimes it is.

Show up. Be true to yourself. Find all the clarity, courage, creativity and compassion you need from the character you've already developed, and move forward.

I like to treat disillusionment like a sad movie. Enjoy the cry, talk it over with a loving friend, and then look forward to the next adventure.

It's worth a try, isn't it?

-- Douglas Brent Smith

Front Range Leadership

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New Ideas

New ideas won't break you but they can make you bigger. -- doug smith

High Performance Leadership Combination

We can rationalize anything without making it justified. Leaders should always ask: who is this good for other than me? High performance leadership does NOT mean performance at any cost. It means performance that serves a noble cause while also benefiting people. High performance leadership is a combination. Results without relationships are shallow and temporary. Take care of both, and you'll be a high performance leader. -- doug smith

What You Need

Use what you've learned to become what you need. -- doug smith

For example

Get good at something that won't obsolete itself. For example: emotional intelligence creating great conversations encouraging people leadership What would you add to the list? Which ones are you developing? -- doug smith

Decide

What do you want? Are you getting what you want? Intention is direction. Decide. And, then go. -- doug smith

Your Reputation

More authority means higher levels of responsibility. More power requires more service to others, not less. What you do with your power is who you will be known as. Also, how you use the power you have creates who people will remember you as. How do you want to be remembered? -- doug smith

Show Integrity

The goals we seek bring a lot of pull to them. We get wrapped in them. It's useful and it's powerful when we care about our goals so much that they propel us forward and keep us working even when we're tired, beyond the boundaries of our usual limitations. But they should not take us beyond the boundaries of our usual values. They should not trick us into bending the rules just because the rules are in the way. Truly high performance leaders of character who are focused, and centered, and noble maintain integrity. No cheating is ever worth the outcome. Integrity is so rare that many people don't even recognize. If you do, be thankful. We need leaders like you. To truly understand integrity you've got to keep it. Even when it's hard. Even the lines are blurred. -- doug smith

Start With Kindness

When you start with kindness you don't have to stay there, but you probably will. It works better for others. It works better for you. If you're human, you'll probably relapse. It does take practice to stay the course. The course starts by starting. When you start with kindness, it becomes more naturally the way. High performance leadership develops from the core leadership strengths of clarity, creativity, courage, and compassion. Build one of those strengths today thru some act of kindness and the others will get stronger as well. -- doug smith

Measures Matter

Some people measure quantify first and quality later. Some people measure money first and impact to the team later (not even second!). How you measure productivity might determine your character and your reputation. Put people first. -- doug smith

Personally

Improving performance does require us to take our work seriously. But it does not require us to take ourselves too seriously. Taking things personally is a waste of self-esteem. -- doug smith

High Performance Leadership

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