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Be Strong Without Being A Bully

There is a balance that leaders must find. Go too easy on your team and they will perceive that you don't care. You're not there to create a country club atmosphere. There are standards. There are goals. There are expectations. Your job is to communicate those goals and expectations and follow-up to make sure that your team is achieving them.

That does not mean shouting, demanding unreasonably, or bullying. You know who works for a bully? Only people who have no choice, and then they deliver the bare minimum. The popular image of a yelling, demanding boss only works in the movies. In real life, people find ways to leave the bully flat.

No one wants a weak supervisor. They want someone who has their back, who backs them up, who lets them know when they are delivering exemplary results and who also lets them know when they need to feedback. People want and need feedback. Just choose it carefully. Focus on the behavior, not the person.

No one wants a bully, either. Yell at me, shout at me, call me names, deride my character OR my intentions and I am out of here. No one wants or needs that.

Successful supervisors preserve respect and dignity even while requiring strong results. It's not either or. As is the case in so much of leadership, it is a question of balanced.

You do want to be known as someone who is balanced, don't you?

Find the balance.

-- Doug Smith


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