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A Better Kind of Scared

What scares you?

For many people it's uncertainty. For some it's danger. We live in a world filled with fear and reasons for fear. We should get busy on solving that.

But we also sometimes experience fear when our values are threatened. Someone asks us to do something that we're not comfortable with, or we see someone taken advantage of. We espouse certain behaviors like honesty, trust, and courage and then fail to live up to them. That scares me.

But that could be a sign to dig in, not fall out. That could be a sign to solve that problem before it extinguishes an important value. That could be a mobilizing message we need.

It could mean that all we hold sacred it being ripped apart, piece by piece. We can't let that happen unchallenged.

Scared is just sacred that's a little mixed up.

When we have clarity on our values, there is NO mixing us up. We'll still have problems, but we'll know which problems to solve first.

Which problem should you be working on right now?

-- Doug Smith


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