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Drop Irrelevant Goals

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How does it feel to work on goals that don't matter? Frustrating! And yet we do it. Once committed (or worse, once assigned) we plug along on some goals that have lost their relevance. They don't matter. No one really cares, least of all us.

What's the point?

That slows us down! In my workshops I often quote Brian Tracy on setting priorities. "In order to prioritize we must have the courage to de-prioritize." No one can do everything.

Since we can't do everything, we must decide what we will not do. Often, as unpleasant as it may feel, that means letting go of goals that don't matter anymore.

Drop those irrelevant goals. Work on those that matter. Work on those that energize you and lead you toward your mission. Time marches on. March to the band that makes your heart beat with verve and happiness!

-- Doug Smith


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  1. David SpiegelSeptember 10, 2016 at 9:19 AM

    I can't remember who suggested this to me: make a list of the things you want to accomplish....pick the 3 most important and toss the rest of the list away! If they are that important, they will be on the next day's list!

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    1. Doug SmithSeptember 10, 2016 at 11:19 PM

      Makes sense to me. My list includes 5 things, but 3 can prioritize even more.

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