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Sometimes I keep it all to myself. That is seldom a good idea.
Better, far better, is to talk about it. Get it out. Share.
Listen, pause, think it over, speak.

Speak your mind, speak your heart, speak your peace.

-- doug smith

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David SpiegelAugust 31, 2019 at 10:48 AM
Over the last few weeks, a number of "things" have come up in my life that one could call challenges.

I suppose if I was the world's greatest optimist,I could look at them as opportunities.

Trust me,I would really have to have an unrealistic view of life to consider these as anything close to an opportunity.

As days mount and become weeks, the stress level I am experiencing grows as well.

As I go through my day, I am preoccupied with the impact that this stuff is having and will have on my life moving forward.

Of course, without exploring exactly what all of these things mean to me, I am creating scenarios and outcomes based on fear,False Expectations Appearing Real.

In the last few days, I have taken the bold step of not being afraid of speaking to people about these issues I am experiencing.

I am not looking for sympathy or advice.

It just seems to help to bring it out in the open.

Sunlight is a marvelous thing.

Coming out of my self imposed darkness has a calming effect.

Things always appear worse in the dark.

Not that they are not real.

They just are what they are.

Talking about them helps.

We all know that talk is cheap.

Talk without an action plan is nothing more than expelling hot air.

Still, silence is dreadfully stressful.

Things are what they are.

Deal with them.

Then,move on!

Just that easy.

Thanks for listening!
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