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Skip the Meetings That Don't Matter

How much time do you waste in meetings that don't matter?

Oh, they probably matter to someone. Whoever called the meeting must think it's necessary. But the agenda (if there is an agenda) does not include you or any goals that you are working on. Maybe it's not aligned with your mission or values. Maybe it is just a status update or something worse -- a meeting for the sake of meeting.

Do you really have time for that nonsense?

It takes courage, but it's well worth it to screen the meetings that you attend. Whenever you have a choice, if the meeting makes no sense to you and if there is a better use of your time, skip the meeting. Be polite, let your organizer know you won't be attending. Or before you send your intention not to attend, first ask if there is something relevant at the meeting that you're working on. Is there a goal that you need to contribute to? Is that a problem that you can help solve? Will the meeting move goals that you are working on forward? If so, and there is a reason for you to attend, then you know you won't be wasting your time.

I know there are exceptions. I've worked for a company that has required meetings. If team members don't attend they are charged with an absence and can be written up, even fired. It's ridiculous but it's a company policy I didn't have time to fight (sometimes when an organization is large enough we must pick our battles). But if it's NOT a required meeting, it's worth your time to explore whether or not you really need to be there.

There are other reasons you might want to attend:

- to build relationships
- to celebrate milestones
- to help people learn
- to influence change
- to trade favors
- to show support

... but if you can't find a reason, there might not be one.

Find the courage to refuse any meeting that doesn't align with your mission, goals, and priorities. Life's too short for meaningless meetings.

-- Douglas Brent Smith

 

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