|Taking a very long walk.|
Sometimes I'd rather have someone keep their opinion to themselves. If they're not happy, if they are sounding judgmental, if they have a frowny face. Wouldn't be easier if they just kept quiet?
Easier in that moment. And, sometimes maybe it's even the best thing possible if a harsh critic keeps a damaging opinion private. But I've also learned that sometimes the toughest message is what I truly need to hear in order to learn.
Just because I don't like criticism doesn't mean it isn't good for me.
I just might need to take a good long afterwards.
How about you?
Here's how to embrace criticism:
- Remember, they could be wrong. As my friend Dr. Jay Desko has said, "feedback says more about the person providing the feedback than it does about you."
- Stay curious. There is probably something useful to learn.
- Remember that a defensive reaction more likely signals a learning moment than it does any real danger.
- Stress can create growth. Once the learning moment is over, build in some recovery time by doing something you really like.
- Thank the person for their feedback.
- Ask them if they'd like your views about their performance or their feedback. (people are less likely to be unkind if they know their turn is coming up next!)
-- Douglas Brent Smith