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Find the Center

When things unravel, when life goes crazy, when people are losing sense over senseless things, how do you keep it together?

For me, the key is to pause long enough to breathe. The expression "center yourself" is meaningful to me because it helps me find some calmness in what otherwise would be chaos. We only get a few seconds to find that center, but the good news is that's all that it takes.

As a person of faith, I also take that brief moment to check in with that higher power. Call it what you will, for me G-d fills that space with the peace I would not normally find on my own. The center.

When we're in conflict we can center ourselves before trying to influence anyone else.

Why would they respond to any attempt to calm them down if we're flying off the edge? Operating from our center, we can best help others center as well.

It's worth a try, isn't it?

-- Doug Smith


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  1. I am brand new to meditation....it is a practice I aim to engage in on a regular basis!

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    1. Good idea, David. The benefits are plentiful. I'm a beginner at it myself and yet everything I read about it sounds great and I've enjoyed the amount that I've done as well.

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