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Find Your Flexibility

Do you ever wonder where your best choices are hiding?

I've had times when I felt painted into a corner by circumstances. It's easy to get emotionally stuck in that corner. Easy, but not very useful.

Climb out of that trap and look for possibilities. Creativity teaches us that there is always a new way to see and do. There is always a new combination, a new set of rules, a new world of possibilities. Simply looking for those possibilities is usually enough to uncover some.

I've know people who give up on their dreams because they no longer seem possible. What I've learned about that (having let go of a few dreams along the way) is that it is well worth the time to figure out what is it about that dream that appeals to you. What makes that dream cool? Why do you want it? What do you want out of it? Maybe there are far more choices and permutations to that dream that you'd considered.

Living your dream could be much more flexible than you realize.

The next time you feel like letting go of a dream, ask yourself what's in the dream that you really want the most. You can probably still have that.

-- Doug Smith


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