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Feedback Is More Than Criticism


High performance leadership is a hands-on enterprise. Communication is essential. It is always worth remembering that communication is more than words. Communication is conveyed on three essential channels: the words, the tone, and the body language. Providing feedback means more than telling someone how they did. It could also include showing them how to do it better.

When I was a young baseball player, when I struggled at the plate my coach would not just tell me how to do it better, he would show me. "Here's a better place to grip the bat...it's a better way to step into the ball...if you stand like this you'll see the pitch more clearly..." feedback and instructions.

When I was taking music lessons on my old Lowry Organ my teacher would not just tell me how I sounded -- when it helped she would also show me better ways to hold my hands. When it was useful she would also move my hands to an inversion that made the chord sound more rich and full. She was a teacher and a coach. As the result, my performance improved.

What about your team?

What if you showed them how to do it right rather than telling them that they're doing it wrong?

-- doug smith


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